MY.LIFE.TO.LIVE

WRITER: NONIKA JORGENSEN
TAIWAN

Enhancing our own inner beauty is sometimes straight up challenging. With all the external distractions around us pulling our attention towards the physical, we often forget about what truly matters: our OWN beauty. I believe the secret to anchoring self-esteem in yourself can be as simple as encouraging yourself to be your own person, looking your best and being confident. But most importantly, have a level of self-respect so outstanding that others cannot resign you from it, and treat others well. To be truly happy, give up destructive, self-defeating self-talk. How many people hurt themselves because of their negative, polluted and repetitive self-defeating mindset? Don’t believe everything that your mind is telling you, especially if it’s negative and self-defeating. You are better than that. Eckhart Tolle once said, “The mind is a superb instrument if used rightly. Used wrongly, however, it becomes very destructive.” 

The moment you begin thinking positively and concentrating on the great things that make you YOU, you will find that people will be drawn to you, effortlessly. There are too many people in this world who are living a life that is not theirs to live. They live their lives according to what others think is best for them, they lives their lives according to what their parents think is best for them, to what their friends, their enemies, their teachers, and the media think is best for them. We are often so busy pleasing others and trying to live up to other peoples’ expectations that we lose control over our own lives. Then, we forget what makes us happy, what we want and what we need. You have one life, this one right now, and you must live it, own it, and not let other peoples’ opinions distract you from your path.
We’ve heard it all before. It is not fresh news that the media has turned many people into superficial replicas, judging people on how they look, rather than what the person has to contribute intellectually or otherwise. There is beauty in every single one of us! The secret lies within the mental picture you hold of yourself. In order for you to free up your incredibly vast potential, you need to learn to fully appreciate exactly how unique and valuable you really are. No matter where you are at in this certain period of your life, you have the ability to unleash enormous potential and unprecedented change.  

We all have a certain image of ourselves that is based on our achievements, abilities, looks, intelligence, popularity and talents. Our ultimate evaluation of that image will determine our level of self-esteem. It is imperative that we participate in such evaluation, as even Socrates stated that the unexamined life was not worth living. However, it is crucial that during your self-evaluations, you figure out who you really are and what you stand for. You are not your job, your friends, or the results you produce or fail to produce. You are someone with core values and standards. To create your empowering self-image, you need to get in touch with those values. Once you are acquainted with the core of your values, do your very best to live by them. This will create a sense of inner harmony and purpose.
When living in a world that overwhelms us with unrealistic ideals, learning to maintain a positive mental perspective is a much respected skill. Getting to know yourself can literally change the way you view yourself and the world around you. After all, your life is your message to the world. Make it top-notch inspiring.